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Are You a Real Man?

Posted on 05. Jun, 2009 by admin in Family

I’m currently doing a study at my church called Men’s Fraternity The Quest for Authentic Manhood by Robert Lewis.

It is a fantastic study about being a real man. I definitely recommend any man to go through the course, because it opens you up and shows you what you need to do to be a man. I am really enjoying it. But, that is not what this post is about today. The post is actually about a quote I heard Robert speak during one of his presentations. That quote is this… “You will leave in your son what you live out in your own life”.

Wow! When I heard that it made me stop in my tracks and really start to think about how I was living my life. There really is so much truth in what he is saying. Your son emulates everything you do. Every man knows that their son wants to be just like them. So, the way we live is going to mold the way they grow up. The way we live is going to mold the way they live their lives.

So, it is our responsibility to make sure that we live life to the fullest and make sure we instill good quality morals and manners into our our children. I’m not just talking about boys here. I’m also talking about “daddy’s Little girl”.

My wife is also doing a study about the true beauty of women. She was telling me that it is amazing how many women are effected by how their father treated them. And I can see that. So, with all this going on in my head I’m really starting to think about the way I’m living my life.

As men, we are the leaders of the family. What we do determines how the family lives their lives. If we go to church the family goes to church. If we don’t go to church the family doesn’t go to church.

If we live a life full of alcoholism and abuse, our family suffers from alcoholism and abuse. If we live a life of serving and giving to others, our family grows up and knows what it’s like to serve and give to others.

As a man we set the tone for our families. So it is essential that you realize that what you do affects your entire family. It is a very selfish thing to only think you’re affecting yourself. Your decisions and the way you live your life affects more than just you.

Reading that quote and hearing that quote really opened my eyes to that fact. Now, I must say that I did have a pretty good idea that my family was affected by the decisions and actions I took. But, this really made it clear for me.

Especially now that I have a son. I know that my son wants to be like me so bad. I run an Internet business, so my son is very Internet savvy. He is only three years old but he talks about sending me e-mails. It is hilarious.

Sometimes he’ll accidentally walked in on me while I’m recording a video or podcast. He knows what that looks like so he automatically stops, quietly shuts the door and then apologizes later.

It is absolutely amazing. But, he knows what daddy does and he knows how I do it. He lives it out through his life as well. He has his own little pretend laptop and he acts like he’s checking his e-mail on his laptop. What I am doing is affecting his life. What I am doing is affecting how he is growing up. So, it is on my shoulders to make sure that I do the right things.

So, as a man it is on your shoulders to make sure you do the right things as well. Now, we are all going to mess up and do dumb things at times. But, we need to realize when we make those mistakes and correct them.

I am the furthest thing from perfect. I have so many things I’m working on right now that it is not even funny. Shoot, I have not even been a non-smoker for that long. It was only about 18 months ago that I quit smoking. Plus, I’m still working on my anger issues and things of that nature.

I’m not here saying I am great, look at me, do what I’m doing. What I’m saying is we all need to work on getting better. The faster we can recognize that we are the leaders of the family and what we do affects them, the faster we will start raising better families.

So, today I challenge you, if your man reading this, to sit down and take a look at the way you’re living your life. Is there anything you can do to change so your family gets a little better.

Are there attitude changes you can make? Are there some drinking issues you can change? Are you a slave to your job and worship your job? These are all things we can look at.

I’m working on so many things it’s not even funny and as you read through this blog and follow the blog you’ll see a lot of them come out. I’m very open about my mistakes and the things I’m working on. I never claimed to be perfect and I know that I need to constantly improve. But, at least I’m trying to improve.

That is what I’m trying to impress upon you today… that you need to take a look at what you’re doing and improve upon it. You can be the best father in the world, but we can still make it a little bit better.

Anyway, it’s a fantastic day do not waste it. I am so blessed the Lord let me wake up and live this day. Time is the only thing we cannot get back, so deal with your time wisely and use a little bit of today to think about how you can make some changes to help improve your family.

Talk soon…

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